Last night I watched a program about Judy Garland's life, complete with interviews of close friends, and Liza Minnelli. I think it must have been done sometime in the 1970's, because Peter Lawford was one of the people interviewed and I think he died sometime during the 70's. Not sure. But anyway, Liza looked all of maybe 20, so I know it was done quite some time ago.

At one point, someone said that Judy was "schitzophrenic." But I take major issue with that statement, I believe the bloke who said it was absolutely clueless about her---and I think he was one of her husbands at one time. The glaringly obvious thing about Judy Garland is, she was submissive. Nobody seems to understand that though. She spent her entire life trying to please everyone around her, all the time, even at detriment to herself...didn't she. She didn't always take care of herself or think about herself because she was too busy trying to make everyone around her happy all the time...wasn't she.

After many years of doing this, she had a meltdown...didn't she. And she became rather bitter and hardened, and one clip they showed of her in a film was actually the REAL Judy Garland coming out, telling this guy that nobody can force her to sing, she sings for herself, and nobody can ever make her do it if she doesn't want to, and there's nothing anyone can do about it, on and on, she had a tirade about how she's in control of her talent, nobody else is, and if she chooses not to share it with anyone from now on, that's her choice, and to hell with everybody else.

I can relate to that real Judy Garland, seeping out into her acting in that film. She needed a spanking all her life, but never got one. Nobody ever slapped her across the face and told her to get on her knees and beg for forgiveness, nobody ever grabbed her by the hair and helped her release herself from the society-forced "bitchiness" that she had no choice but to succomb to. She might have had orgasms in her lifetime, but she never got to go to subspace.

I would also like to state that I believe Britney Spears is also going through a similar situation right now, as well as Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton. None of these women have ever had a Dominant man in their lives. That's the one thing they all have in common. All of them have been expected and demanded to please everybody else from a very young age, haven't they. And now, they are seemingly "out of control," because, well, there are no decent Dominant men around who TAKE control of them, as they so desperately need.

I believe that is why Judy Garland married so many times; she was trying to find a Dominant man. None of them were apparently Dominant enough to keep her happy or under control. Why do we have such a shortage of Dominant men in this country? That is a phenomenon I will never understand. Was it due to the feminist movement in the 1970's that confused the hell out of most men, and has now caused a huge ripple effect all across the country? I partially blame in that, yes. It confused the hell out of women too, who didn't really know what to ask for, other than more "equality" in some areas...but they also need more control in other areas. That's the part the feminists of yesterday left out, or forgot to mention. I believe that is why men of today are weak and confused and don't know HOW to take control of a woman or relationship anymore.

So Judy did what lots of female submissive women do...she turned to her talent as a proxy Dom. She worked herself into exhaustion, giving 110% to everything she was involved in, busting her ass to be perfect, to please the audience, to prove to the world that she is the best at everything. But she had to take sleeping pills and uppers in order to do it. Nobody took her aside and said, "Look, you're starting to have a real and serious drug problem, I care about you, let me help." Nobody bothered to take her by the hair and say, "Listen to me little girl, you're out of control, and you need a spanking to get your life back on track." And that my friends, is what she needed more than anything.

Liza may disagree. But I don't think Liza knew that about her mom either. I don't even think Judy knew that about herself. But I recognize it, and that is my theory. A woman who is submissive but doesn't have a Dominant man to balance her out and give her the consistency and stoicism and firmness that she needs, will eventually and inevitably self-destruct.

Perhaps Elvis Presley was a submissive man too, kinda fits the mold don'tcha think?? What if all those child-actors who ended up hitting the skids also had this same submissiveness, forced into it at a young age, pleasing everybody all the time, and then later on, blowing up because their needs have gone un-met for so long? It's an interesting thing to contemplate.

What else explains all the strange meltdowns that have been happening lately with celebrities? There is a shortage of real Dominant men to take control of these women, to give them what they need, mentally and emotionally---not so much physically. The physical part is easy. The mental connection is not. But so few men know how to harness that ability, they don't even know they have to crawl inside a woman's head first, before they can truly relate to her on a Dominant/submissive level. It's a fine art, and one you're either born with, or you're not. Trouble is, 9 out of 10 men don't seem to be born with it anymore for some weird reason.

Well, that's my theory, take it or leave it. I could be wrong. But it seems to make sense.

I now have to live without the Dominant man in my life, and that is why it's on my mind.

---Sassy Girl